Are you living your life? Or someone else's ?
I've been listening to Dr. John Demartini lately (www.johndemartini.com ) and begin to understand a lot of things which i have been oblivious about.
There are hardly any rights and wrongs in life. It's all about our value system and how we rank them.
We do not need anyone to motivate us to do the things that we like. Things that we like are often high in our value system. These are the things which are important to us and these are the things which we will often make sacrifices for.
On the other side of the coin, things that we do not like to do are often low on our value system. If you hate your greens you probably will frown when your mum tells you to eat them. If you're studying a module which you dislike you probably won't spend as much time on it compared to a module which you are really interested in.
But why do people still do things which they don't like?
We often put people on a pinnacle. When we do that, we are subjecting ourselves to their value system instead of listening to ours. There are times when we say that we have to , we ought to , we're supposed to do something is because we may be blinded by that infatuation. Or that idolism. Then, we are living their life. Their dreams. Not ours.
On the other extreme we have people who subject themselves with self-rightousness. They see themselves as an absolute and start to judge people with their value system. And instead of injecting other ppl's values they start to project their values by saying ''you should be doing this , you have to be doing this , you ought to be doing this. ''
As long as we're putting people down by projecting our values on to people or we're putting people up by injecting their values into ours we will be unable to fulfill our mission. Self actualisation is not by putting people down or up , but by putting people in our hearts, and learning how to communicate what is inspiring to us in terms of what is inspiring to them.
There are two ways which we can learn to empower ourselves:
1) Spiritual Empowerment. eg: Mother Theresa, Dali lama who dedicate their lives to The Great Spirit ( no religion preference here ) and by giving back to the Universe.
2) Our Minds. In developing our mental power. And recognising whatever that is highest in our value. We cannot stand ppl who are low on our value system but we can communicate effortlessly with people who are high on our value system.
Once we identify what is high on our values, we will be able to identify where our success lies. Because it is according to our values that determines how we live our life. Depending on the hierarchy of our values we change the form of our success and failures. The second we identify we have success, the Universe gives it to us. The second we deny that we have success, we are futily try to obtain something that doesn't exist in accordance to our value system. Those are somebody else's value system. It is their form of success. Not ours.
All of us are successful. We are just successful depending on what our value systems are. I am not right in dedicating my life to cheerleading. I am not right or wrong. I just have a unique set of values. There are others who dedicate their lives to other causes and I may look at them and say that they are successful. They may in turn look at me and say that I am successful.
The first thing is to honour and appreciate what we have because when we do, success will come in our way.
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